We were sitting in the tax office when the woman helping us paused and said, “You don’t see many people who have kids and are married much these days.”
Her words hit me harder than I expected. She was right. In a world where so many families look different, seeing a married couple with children is becoming rare. And while I don’t judge anyone raising children outside of marriage—it’s just the reality of today’s society—I couldn’t help but feel grateful that I got married before having kids.
We took the time to build a strong foundation for our relationship before bringing children into the world. And even though we didn’t wait years before trying to conceive, every step was intentional. That foundation has made all the difference—for us, and for our children.
Our kids will grow up knowing their parents truly love each other. They will carry the same last name as both mom and dad, a small but meaningful thread of connection that reinforces family unity. More importantly, they’ll witness firsthand what a healthy, loving marriage looks like—the give-and-take, the laughter, the commitment.
Every day, being married and raising children together strengthens our bond. It reminds us that we are not just partners but role models. I want the kind of marriage that makes my children look at us and say, “I want that someday.” Because our children are learning about love, respect, and partnership simply by watching us. The way we treat each other today will shape how they expect to be treated tomorrow.
So yes, maybe married parents with kids are a little rare these days—but I wouldn’t trade it for anything. Our marriage is the heart of our family, and every moment we share together is teaching our children what love, loyalty, and partnership really mean.
